tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2838211802385148938.post8887295877501777390..comments2023-10-31T08:15:18.572-07:00Comments on The Sensible Bride: why i need a stranger at my weddingJessica McLeodhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10562092028204904567noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2838211802385148938.post-55155238664928306472008-09-17T19:37:00.000-07:002008-09-17T19:37:00.000-07:00I know I just called you and everything, but, cont...I know I just called you and everything, but, continuing in annie's theme:<BR/><BR/>I was talking to my sister about this, cuz I was asking her about that celebrant dude (but family friend, and interstate wedding, so the talk wasn't useful from the money side of things), and she was saying that paying for the flights and accommodation for someone that she knew was way cheaper than paying for a celebrant in Sydney. How stupid is that? But that also the other thing she was considering at the time was to sign the paperwork before or after, and then do the ceremony with the vows as if it were the whole thing. Because she figured that the important part was the exchanging vows and being with friends and family, and that signing a bit of paper was so far removed from the getting-married part that it made no difference whether they were legally married when exchanging their vows or not.<BR/><BR/>Although, I can totally see that doing it that way might seem like cheating in some way. Because in the back of your mind you'll know that it's not all happening at once, and the moment that you're legally married isn't the moment with all your friends and family around. But seeing as the legal part is the least excellent part (unless you can somehow work finger food into it), it would just be personal preference.<BR/><BR/>Man, i've never talked so much WEDDING stuff before. Sensible in-your-face-establishment weddings are exciting!<BR/><BR/>ALSO: Do you know how many times I wrote 'ceremoney' instead of 'ceremony'?! I think there's something in that...Lizzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09540275833085622566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2838211802385148938.post-81092190853549228862008-09-17T11:12:00.000-07:002008-09-17T11:12:00.000-07:00hahaha, i had the same reaction tot he monkey line...hahaha, i had the same reaction tot he monkey line... "why didn't anyone tell us we could have a monkey do it?!? do you have the pone number for this monkey thing?"<BR/>i think annie's idea is pretty good. have a friend do the ceremony at the wedding and do the vows and everything, then make it legal later. i don't see why the ceremony and the legality need to be connected, especially if you can save some money and have a better experience at the ceremony. too bad you can't just get married in the u.s.aaronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14745574785226213635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2838211802385148938.post-75035035557714507702008-09-17T04:38:00.000-07:002008-09-17T04:38:00.000-07:00I had no idea monkeys ate peanuts!I had no idea monkeys ate peanuts!Ivehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08279248574016099261noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2838211802385148938.post-85197388016346500522008-09-17T01:40:00.000-07:002008-09-17T01:40:00.000-07:00Annie: Well, it would cost over $300 just to get m...Annie: Well, it would cost over $300 just to get married at the registrar (our version of the courthouse) so we figure we might as well pay a little extra and get the real thing! I totally understand where you're coming from, but for me, it is important that we recite our vows in front of the people we love. It really does mean something to me.Jessica McLeodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10562092028204904567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2838211802385148938.post-16967741930846075732008-09-17T00:38:00.000-07:002008-09-17T00:38:00.000-07:00Monkey.We are using the monkey.Monkey.<BR/><BR/>We are using the monkey.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2838211802385148938.post-51321412556487811992008-09-17T00:33:00.000-07:002008-09-17T00:33:00.000-07:00(continuing her string of bizarre ideas....) Get t...(continuing her string of bizarre ideas....) Get the legal part done at the courthouse, then have a friend (or monkey!) preside over the ceremony with your community. Is it more important for you to be legally hitched, or bound to the love of your life in the eyes of your nearest and dearest?<BR/><BR/>Heck, you could even say "in your eye" <I>more</I> to the state and have your ceremony first and do the paperwork later. The "celebrant" doesn't make your vows valid and important, you and your partner do.<BR/><BR/>(This coming from someone who believes that, in some ways, an important bit of her wedding was impromptu vows declared on a sunset walk a week before the ceremony, so take it with a grain or lump of salt)anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08324828987699178581noreply@blogger.com